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Claudia Diaz's avatar

As a fellow eldest daughter who has been unknowingly becoming her boomer father, I’ve never related more to a rant. People using Google maps to travel 10 blocks and not knowing where they live hurts my heart and my brain.

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Melissa Harrison's avatar

It's not an option for all of us. Developmental topographical disorientation is a form of neurodivergence in which the brain can't form cognitive maps; it's thought to affect about 2% of the population. I have it (properly diagnosed), as do two of my sisters, while my mum couldn't drive, navigate, give directions or reliably tell left from right. I struggle finding my way back to my table if I go to the loo in a pub or restaurant and often end up in the kitchen, men's, or even outside; driving is very challenging (roundabouts are more or less off limits, and I only drive very locally) and I couldn't draw you a map of the tiny village I've lived in for years. The bit of my brain that's supposed to do these things isn't there and never has been; instead of this developing since satnavs, I can remember being a very small child (six or seven) and realising that something was different about me compared to the way other kids moved about in the world, though I couldn't put words to it. I still move around with a sort of grey blur beyond what I can actually see and while I hide it a lot I'm getting better at admitting it. Mostly, though, it's exhausting (the cognitive load when trying to get around is really high) and it causes a lot of anxiety that can be debilitating.

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